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Stockholm Syndrome: Your Boss' Weapon Against You & Easiest Form of Mind Control

https://www.britannica.com/science/Stockholm-syndrome

"The survival instinct is at the heart of the Stockholm syndrome. Victims live in enforced dependence and interpret rare or small acts of kindness in the midst of horrible conditions as good treatment."

 *Straight from the mouths of those with PhDs in Psychology and psychiatrists won't and don't disagree that Stockholm explains why we KNOWINGLY allow our bosses to use us to break laws, and treat us like expendable trash. To him you're like the gum that lost its flavor, spit out and replaced with a new piece of gum; doomed to lose its flavor and spit out. He might let you slide because of an illness, extreme family emergencies but the reality is, you're just as worthless to him as someone he hired and fired a week later without explanation; whose name is already forgotten before she's even gone. 

 *Their powers of manipulation know no bounds. They'll let it slide that you're late once if you're…

Mislabeling: It's Far From a Victimless Crime.

*Everyone is well aware of the epic contractor vs. employee debate, who falls under what category - mislabeled or not- and which occupations SHOULD fall under one category or another, because it makes sense! That's where strippers are at right now.. Those who've woken up and realized they can have cake but if they wanna eat it too, they're going to have to change union laws set by the US Dept. Of Labor & Nat. Labor Relations Board. In other words, IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE AN EMPLOYEE, DO WHATEVER YOU CAN TO MAKE YOUR CLUB OWNER GO LEGIT! Otherwise, keep putting your future in the hands of people who've never danced and aren't going to listen to you; even though they NEED TO!!

 *Dancers ARE in a class all their own, meaning the job is incomparable to any other; though business patterns do mimic the service and hospitality industry, as the majority of clubs are also bars. BYOB clubs are in fact bars and DO require a liquor license to allow alcohol consumption…

STRIPPERS: YOUR CONTINUOUS FIGHT FOR A UNION IS FUTILE...

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT UNIONIZING; IT IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS, AND THE CONFUSION IS BECOMING A PROBLEM FOR YOU!

1) Legitimate unions that may legally perform duties mandated by the US Dept. of Labor must be federally approved and recognized by the DOL, prior to accepting members. Membership of ANY union requires you to be a legal employee.

2) Once a union becomes federally recognized by the DOL & IRS, such as the International Entertainment Adult Union, that becomes the ONLY union that will ever be available for any one occupation; in this case, adult performers. ***PERHAPS THIS WILL HELP*** When you drive past a building with "Local Union 23, Plumbers and Pipefitters" plastered on the side ( real life example of a chapter located in Rock Island, IL), said union is a SMALL chapter of the ONE union the DOL recognizes for plumbers; any other group is simply an advocacy group and NOT a true union.***

3) Private sector unions are regulated by the National Labor Rela…

Unions: Strippers Have the EDG- Most Workers Wish They Could Have Their Own

*If you follow my blog, then you likely follow me on social media, namely Twitter; and you are probably aware of my thesis -based on years of extensive research and personal experience- about the sociological and psychological aspect of our industry. I've discovered what most would consider an obvious issue, on the surface, but the REAL problem isn't the fault of anyone but US!! Rather than blaming laws, shady club owners and whatever else we've all complained about for years; we all need to take a step back and remember this is OUR industry. We complain about the same things in a hole in the wall in Illinois as the big clubs in CA that everyone knows, but how many of us actually do something about it? I know ALL the excuses as I have used them all. My advice is to be proactive and never reactive. Case in point, California. Sometimes money needs to be a lower priority in order to move on. Is anyone doing anything besides Tweet and post on IG? I think we all know that neve…

Progress Happens Slowly: The Chaos Theory

*Everyone is familiar with the phrase "butterfly effect"; famously metaphoric of how chaos ensues in life. With just one flap of the wing of a butterfly will eventually create a tornado. One TINY deviation from a plan or progress and the results could end in total destruction. In this case, an already dying industry is at stake..

 *There are three sides to every argument, but only one is the truth or valid; however, three different realities start to blur lines for everyone. No two people share the same reality. We do, however, all live on the same planet. Dancers, strippers, pole artist, etc. whatever term YOU PREFER FOR YOURSELF; we all do the same job, have the same problems and the only trait that separates ANYONE at ANY job are ethics. Integrity. You STILL represent the company and set the precedent for all those who come after you, and the reputation of YOUR business. Whatever your club is "known for" isn't necessarily anything the owner does or even kno…

Dances Aren't the Product, YOU ARE; Sell Yourself.

*No matter where they dance, what their employee status is, topless or nude; there's a longstanding but unwritten rule that's been forgotten, YOU'RE NOT SELLING THE RIGHT PRODUCT!

 *I've lost count of how often I was complimented on various efforts I put into my job. Dancers think their outfits don't make a difference. They do. On the pole? Know the crowd. They used to remember pole tricks were more lucrative, primarily, nights; especially weekend nights. It's important to also focus on sensuality, making the people watching you want to get you alone, meeting someone's eyes.. Places where dancers are more focused on their appearance, attitude, etc. notoriously have an easier time at work. What happened to being a fantasy?

 *The problem is DANCES AREN'T WHAT YOU'RE SELLING, YOU'RE SELLING YOURSELF! YOU ARE THE PRODUCT, NOT LAPDANCES!

 *How often do dancers successfully get any dances when all they do is walk around asking if guys want dances? Ir…

Being Shortsighted Led to Justification Child Endangerment & Sexual Assault; STOP GIVING BAD ADVICE!

***READ CAREFULLY! I'M TRYING TO HELP SOME VERY LOST AND DAMAGED PEOPLE! I NEED you to SEE THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR IRRESPONSIBLE ACTIONS!***

***I AM PRO LEGALIZATION, I SUPPORT ALL SEX WORKERS! IT'S YOUR BUSINESS WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR OWN BODY! BUT YOU'RE NOT AN ESCORT, YOU'RE A STRIPPER HURTING YOUR SISTERS ON PURPOSE!!! WHOREPHOBIA IS A MADE UP WORD AND I DON'T PUT UP WITH IT! STOP. MAKING. EXCUSES. FOR. RECKLESS. CHOICES!***

*I was a teenage mom.. My daughter, Alexia Denise, was stillborn. That doesn't change the fact that she IS my daughter. That said, having stripped for 12 years myself, I DON'T APPRECIATE PEOPLE TELLING SOMEONE'S BABY GIRL THAT SHE SHOULD RISK SOLICITATION CHARGES BECAUSE "It's her choice".. NO! It ISN'T!! Alexia is 19 and I would burn a club down with EVERYONE IN IT if a bunch of irresponsible dancers EVER gave her the idea that it's okay to exchange money for sexual favors IN A PLACE WHERE PEOPLE WORK THEIR…